How Do I Start Dating Again?

June 15, 2011
Female

Q: About a year and a half ago I ended a relationship with a woman that I’d really thought was “the one”. Breaking up with her was the right thing for me to do, but I find that ever since then I just can’t bringmyself to even entertain the idea of dating. Not because I miss her, but because the thought of making myself vulnerable to someone again is almost paralyzing. I don’t trust my own judgement anymore. Afterall, I was so sure that she was the one and I turned out to be completely wrong. I’m terrified of going through heartbreak like that again.

 

I feel like there is something in me that’s stuck. How do I get past this?

A:Dear The One,

The great thing about one being a primary number is that there are other primary numbers.  If you were brilliant and sexy and smart enough to find that one, then you can surely find the next one.  Don’t be so hard on yourself.  Congratulate yourself for falling in love and finding someone.  That’s a great feat, you should be proud of yourself.  Having done it once, you now have some experience under your belt that will actually make you better at it the next time.  Get out there and give those lucky girls a chance at your beautiful loving heart.  You deserve it.  You’ve earned the right to try again. Kick up your heels and go have some fun.