June 15, 2011
Q: I have issues with being comfortable sexually with anyone. Most times, I have to drink before anything happens and then I never feel free or comfortable. I also have overwhelming guilt and anxiety…cutting and persecutory thoughts are always present. How can I help myself?
A: Dear Sexually Uncomfortable,
It was very brave of you to write. This is a very big issue and not something that you can help yourself with alone. You need to have the help and support of a trained professional. It sounds like you have some deep injuries that need to be addressed and I am sure with the health of a caring therapist you will be able to enjoy all aspects of life without the need to take a drink. Call your health insurance and ask for a referral to a mental health therapist. If you don’t have insurance, call the NY LGBT Center and ask to have a mental health in-take and they can get you going in the right direction.
You are on the right path keep going. It will get better and better.