Uncomfortable And Overwhelmed

May 30, 2011 – Age: 43

Q: I have issues with being comfortable sexually with anyone. Most times, I have to drink before anything happens and then I never feel free or comfortable. I also have overwhelming guilt and anxiety…cutting and persecutory thoughts are always present. How can I help myself?

A: It was very brave of you to write.  This is a very big issue and not something that you can help yourself with alone.  You need to have the help and support of a trained professional.  It sounds like you have some deep injuries that need to be addressed and I am sure with the health of a caring therapist you will be able to enjoy all aspects of life without the need to take a drink.  Call your health insurance and ask for a referral to a mental health therapist. If you don’t have insurance, call the NY LGBT Center and ask to have a mental health in-take and they can get you going in the right direction.

You are on the right path keep going.  It will get better and better.