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My 18 granddaughter came to me and said she is bi-sexual.   I didn't know what to say.   I at least knew to not freak out.   She has a male boyfriend right now.  I asked her if she had acted on that and she said no.   Then I didn't know what to say.     Was I wrong to ask about it?   What should I have said?     She must have wanted some response from me or she probably wouldn't have told me that.    What should have been my response?

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2 Reply by Alana

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I don't know that there is a right or wrong response.  Personally, I think the best thing you can do is just reassure her that she is still your lovely granddaughter and you will always love her regardless of who she loves.  (And support her, so long as that relationship is a healthy relationship, of course.)

Last edited by Alana (2010-11-25 12:09:45)

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i can imagine that it is difficult how to react but remember that she still is the same person...the only different things is that it's possible that she have a girlfriend some day...i don't think that that will change your love for her...
but you can say to her that you find it difficult how to react but also tell her that you love her...

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4 Reply by LmtChellimarie

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HI... i agree with Shanna and Alana.  Your granddaughter is still your granddaughter no matter who she chooses to love.  I am a gay parent of a gay 24 yr old.  I knew my son was gay from an early age.  So, it was no surprise to me when he did tell me.  The one thing I can say is that .. your granddaughter is at an age where she is exploring her sexuality, so the best thing is to not make a big deal out of it.  Just love her for who she is and not her sexual preference.......

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All I can do is to echo what the others have said, she is still your granddaughter and the worst thing you can do is treat her any differently.

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